Guidelines For Internet Dating

March 18, 2006 | Author: Cindy | Filed under: Online Dating

I am about to show you that with a few good guidelines to follow, you can start Internet dating smarter in no time! So relax, sit back and let’s get started!

TAKE IT SLOW

The number one rule of Internet dating is to take it slow.
Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither was
a good relationship. All relationships take time to grow.
Over the Internet there is a tendency to see the other person
as perfect. After all, you haven’t seen them face-to-face.
It’s easy to romanticize and get ahead of yourself.
Don’t! Remember, all you know about this person is
what you have learned corresponding over the net.

RESEARCH INTERNET DATING SITES

Try selecting a few Internet Dating Sites and researching their websites. Check out a couple of the profiles
to see if these are the types of men/women you would be
interested in. If you belong to a particular religion, you
may want to look for a site that would cater to your beliefs.

BE HONEST

Always remember to be honest about who you are. Do not send
an old photograph of yourself. Remember, sooner or later
if you choose to continue this relationship, the truth will
reveal itself when you meet. Don’t lie about your
occupation or cover up the fact that you have two kids.
Again, being deceitful will only make you look untrustworthy.
Telling someone who you are up front and what you are all
about will weed out unlikely companions.

ASK A LOT OF QUESTIONS

You must learn to ask questions and weigh the answers. Take
the time to find out if you have anything in common. Don’t
just get “swept away” by the fantasy. You want
to know if they have been married, divorced, have children,
like basketball etc., anything that will be non-negotiable
for you in a relationship. After all, you do want to know
if you are compatible. If there are a lot of inconsistencies
in their answers than I would keep asking the same question
from time to time to double check. Don’t be afraid
to probe further. If they get defensive then they probably
aren’t telling you the truth.

BE CAUTIOUS-DON’T TELL TOO MUCH

Unfortunately, there are creeps out there who will take
advantage. So my second piece of advice is do not reveal
any personal information about yourself. Do not give out
your home phone number, address, Social Security #, financial
information (duh!) or anything else that isn’t their business.
If someone is asking a lot of non-personality related personal
question then I would venture to guess that they are up
to no good. Ask yourself why is he so interested if my house
is paid for? Believe me, you will save yourself a lot of
heartache if you shut down anyone asking for that type of
personal information.

DON’T USE YOUR PERSONAL E-MAIL

I would also suggest that you do not use your regular E-mail
address when corresponding with unknown dating site members. Many dating sites offer to set you up with an account.
In the end you will be glad that you took the time to do
so. If you do choose to set up an account, do not use any
personal information like your full name. For now it is best
to guard your anonymity.

TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS

Always use your instincts. If someone or something seems
too good to be true, it usually is. Someone claiming to
be a millionaire looking for love over the net doesn’t
sound too likely to me! This is probably the oldest Internet
scam there is. As much as you might want to believe that
she owns three houses and has lunch with Paris Hilton on
a regular basis, I would move on to more realistic pastures.

REQUEST MORE THAN ONE PHOTO

Always ask for a couple of photos. One may not be enough
to tell what someone looks like. Don’t just settle
for her glamour shot! Ask her to send you one of her on
vacation or at a family gathering. This will give you a
better idea of what she really looks like. Some people send
passport photos or drivers license pictures. We all know
they aren’t very good so please ask for another one
if this happens.

Unfortunately, even when they do send a picture, it may
not be them or could be them ten years and fifty pounds
ago. There really isn’t much you can do about this
situation. If they refuse to send one at all, take that
as sign to move on.

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filipina pen pal Says:
February 27th, 2008 at 9:14 pm
I so love online dating.. these tips really helps! nice
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Daniel Deveer Says:
December 18th, 2007 at 2:34 pm
hi,
i am Daniel 27years and would like to have friend

that can lead to a very serious relationship.

Age should be between 19 and 22
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Davis N'GIGS Says:
June 28th, 2007 at 3:11 pm
You have really organised your advice in a manner that is very satisfying. Thanks for that, but I am looking forward to advise those who mishandle love practices, and those who abuse their loved ones to be careful as they may lose that chance which I assume comes once in life. The “true love, lover” that is.
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philip Says:
June 26th, 2007 at 5:33 pm
i want to fall in love.cindyt can you help get the love of my life
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MAWULORM Says:
September 21st, 2006 at 12:30 pm
thanks for all your advice.am seriusly looking for a GOD fearing person to fall in love with