How to Keep the Passion & Romance Alive in Your Marriage, Part 2

March 11, 2006 | Author: Cindy | Filed under: Marriage

Here are more ideas to keep your love flame burning bright…

· Leave love notes for your spouse. Hide them in a lunch, purse, briefcase or around the house to surprise them.

· Write your spouse an old-fashioned love letter, love poem or write out the words to “your song”. Frame it and surprise your spouse with it.

· Take a vacation alone together at least once a year without the kids and go on mini weekend get-aways at least every few months if possible.

· Plan a weekly date night with your spouse and stick to it. If you can’t afford to go out to a fancy restaurant, find activities that are low budget, such as a free outdoor concert series and take along a romantic picnic lunch/dinner.

· Create a memory – do something different of out of character. For example: Meet your spouse at the door with a raincoat on and nothing on underneath or surprise your spouse by renting a hotel room close to his/her work and call them to have a romantic lunch interlude.

· Give into your spouse’s sexual advances, especially when you don’t feel like it and let them know how much you love them.

· Wear, use or display a gift item that your spouse has given you even if you aren’t thrilled with it. It will make them feel good.

· Surprise your spouse with a candle-lit dinner and flowers. Put on some romantic music and see where the night takes you.

· Plan a “theme dinner” for your loved one. Some examples that Ellen Kriedman gives in her book “Light His Fire”, are: A Hawaiian Haitus; A Night in Spain; A Morroccan Feast; A Venice Vacation; A Greek Picnic; A Japanese Party; An African Safari, etc. Make sure that you attend to every detail from type of food, music and costumes…it can really spice things up.

· Be his/her fantasy…go lingerie shopping together and wear the item he/she picks out.

· Plan things that let your spouse know you really care about them and that you are willing to put your time and energy into activities that create romantic memories.

· Send a message with balloons. Fill up your spouse’s car with balloons (rent an air tank, not a helium tank) and put love notes in each balloon telling your spouse why he/she is so special. Then tape a large needle to the windshield with a note explaining that in order to get in the car he or she will have to pop all of the balloons (which tell why he/she is the most incredible man/woman you have ever known).

· Make your spouse “King” or “Queen” for a day. Buy a crown from a party supply store with a note on his or her bed saying “This crown signifies that you are my king/queen and on Saturday you will be crowned king/queen for a day and the entire day will be devoted to your pleasure.” Start the day with breakfast in bed, followed by a massage and then a sensual shower for two. Plan a picnic at a nearby park (in a secluded place). Let him/or her nap and leave a note instructing your spouse to prepare for an enchanted evening. In the note send let your spouse know that there is a package waiting for them at a local video store where (that you have arranged for earlier) and have a romantic dvd wrapped up in a ribbon waiting for them to pick up. Mention in the note that even though they have just been handed an X-rated movie, it is nothing compared to the evening you are going to have together. You can also send them to pick up other “surprises” you have previously arranged such as lingerie, perfume/cologne, wine, etc. When your spouse arrives home have the atmosphere set up with soft glowing candles or red lights, romantic music and take your time using all of the “surprises” to create a romantic evening.

· Forget your underwear. Just before you enter a restaurant or your friend’s house, tell him/her you forgot your “undies”.

· Plan a surprise half-year birthday party. Invite all of your spouse’s friends to celebrate. This will be a much greater surprise than a party on his or her birthday.

· Have a photo session with your mate. Tell him/her that they are better looking than most models, and that you want some pictures of them for your purse/wallet or desk so everyone can see how gorgeous he/she is. Pose your spouse or dress them up. Display your favorite “model” photo in an obvious place.

IF YOU HAVE ANY SMART TIPS FOR KEEPING THE ROMANCE ALIVE PLEASE SHARE BY ADDING IT AS A COMMENT.

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